Advice: Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
What’s in a word? When that word is a part of your wedding vows, a lot. Choosing to write your own vows for your special day is incredibly romantic, but can also be a nerve-racking experience for many couples. Don’t fret; The Breakers’ team is here to help.
Breakers’ bride and groom Julie and Rory said their “I Do’s” in the stunning Gold Room. (Photo by Ambrosio Photography)
The Knot recently wrote an article with 20 tips for writing your own wedding vows and our team would like to share our favorite six to help you ease the writer’s block on your big day…
• When did you realize you were in love? The more specific you are able to be, the more touching the story. Was it when he helped you bring your sick puppy to the vet? (Don’t underestimate the power of humor and throw in at least one more playful sentiment.) How to use: I knew I was in love when ____________.
• Where do you see yourselves in 10, 20 or 40 years? Go deeper than happily married in a big house. What are your long-term hopes, dreams, and goals? How to use: I look forward to __________, laughing and __________ as we __________.
• What promise can you make to codify your devotion? Here’s an opportunity to personalize your vows — many couples pledge their endless love, but how many promise to take the dog out in the morning, even in the rain? How to use: I promise to always ___________.
• What metaphor (or simile) would capture your love? Think of something that describes or defines your love: Is it strong like a castle? Peaceful like a mountain stream? How to use: Our love is like a ___________ because it ___________.
• How will you change together? You know what your goals are – think about the steps the two of you will need to take together to reach them. How to use: I look forward to ___________ as we __________.
• What words do you associate with love? Make a list of romantic terms so you can avoid overusing love – too many repetitions dilute its power. How to use: My devotion/adoration/ passion is ___________.
Check out The Knot’s full list for more vow writing tips.